Hi Everyone,

Part of this is me venting and another part is truly asking for others experience/advice in this situation. I'm in a primary relationship, we date a girlfriend and have an open relationship. I've been talking to guy #2 (only used as an identifier) for almost a month both online and phone who is married. We both agree to meet. Talk things over with respective partners. Mine is good. He's says his is good. We meet - had a terrific time - we both check in with partners on the date - seems like everything is still good and left the date with both of us having a good time and more than a little hope that this might progress to something more. I got home excitedly shared my evening with my partner who grinned and petted me. He got home and proceeded to have a conversation until 5am because his partner went from really ok (into poly and being opened) to not poly at all. WTF??? Now I will add this - this is her first open/poly relationship (yes, she knew from the very beginning he was this way) and this was the first time he went on a date with someone while being with her.

So now I'm left with "it might be best if we were friends from afar" and "give it time" and me being highly suspicious of her acceptance of poly at all. I'm hurt (it takes a lot of effort to put myself out there darn it!) and I sooo don't get the whole insecurity/jealousy thing.

Anyone else experience this? Any advice - cut and run, be patient and hang in there?

Thanks!