(Poly) LOVE IS......
stopping by his house to walk and feed the dogs so that he
can have an un-interupted week-end retreat with his new girlfriend.
(which I just did before using his internet connection).
Instructions for this thread(in case it is not obvious):
Insert your cute/romantic/sweet/annoying/snarky etc.open relationship
oriented statement here...
ala that 70s" Love is..... " thing
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Sat, August 19, 2006 - 4:05 PMPoly love is...
Arranging for a hotel suite for my Sweetie and his date at the hotel where I worked, setting up with as much romance as possible, then getting back to work, while imaging the yummy things going on in the room...
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Sat, August 19, 2006 - 4:43 PMUpon our return from a four day spiritual and romantic adventure with my beloved from Seattle, my loving wife (recognizing the deep connection that was taking place and realizing that we would not be seeing eachother for a long time) encouraged us to go be alone for one last night before we had to part ways even though she was missing me terribly.
Thank you, My Love.
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Sat, August 19, 2006 - 5:37 PMA partner who stands for our relationship, through some pretty tough times, even after I said it was over. Who welcomed me back with only the briefest doubt. One who continues to grow, with me and with us, with a smile on her heart and an eye towards new possibilities. -
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Sat, August 19, 2006 - 5:46 PMbeing out on a date with a new guy and thinking I can't wait to talk to my SO about him.
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Tue, August 22, 2006 - 3:44 PMGetting a backrub and a footrub at the same time.
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Tue, August 22, 2006 - 7:34 PM...being moved to tears watching my partners making tender love to each other and allowing me to share that moment.
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Wed, August 23, 2006 - 7:59 AM...taking care of my husband's girlfriend's kid so they can have time together.
...my husband seeing my rare opportunity for a few hours with my new crush and pushing me to use it wisely.
...watching my best friend and my husband make love and grinning through the whole thing. *sigh*
...getting tested for STIs regularly.
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Wed, August 23, 2006 - 8:27 AMRhi picked one of mine already! But, also...
Knowing that I can go elsewhere to have amazing interractions that are completely different from what I have at home. Not better, just different.
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
~ Anais Nin
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Wed, August 23, 2006 - 2:46 PMBlowing up (literally) the layers that slow communication.
Having access to a profound spiritual connection with a male and female.
Sharing a husband and wife, and feeling like an honoured goddess.
Living the natural course: that love will never be housed in one single place.
Anticipating my individual time.
Only so our triad can elevated to a new level when we are fused back together!
I love you deeply Jason and Christine! -
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Thu, August 24, 2006 - 11:41 AMComing back home after being away two years, finding out that a woman I have always been in love with has just married the one partner she's had the whole ten years I've known her.'
Having an intriguing, intelligent discussion about relationships, monogamy, etc. in which they come out rather more conservative than I am.
Later... the feeling when she kisses me, with the only end-of-movie-kiss I've ever had, and says "I do love you, you know."
The feeling that, whatever their situation, however things go, if I never become a "partner" to this incredible polyamorous woman who's nevertheless wonderfully happy in a monogamous relationship... it doesn't really matter because love is enough.
So there's my answer. LOVE IS... enough. Love is always enough. And it's been a long time since I've felt that so powerfully.
Thanks for giving me a place to tell this story where people will listen and understand. You are all so important to me. -
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Thu, August 31, 2006 - 7:22 PMAw, Gulfpirate, that's lovely. Good job accepting love where it finds you....
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Thu, September 7, 2006 - 5:04 AMLove is enough.
I like that.
Several months ago a lover and i broke up because I would not be monogamous.
We've withdrawn sex from the mix, but are still deeply bonded.
We are still very much in love, and my ex is really struggling with this,
(as am I, to a lesser degree) still loving me, but now involved in a monogamous relationship
with someone else, and feeling really torn and confused.
sigh....back on topic....
(Poly) LOVE IS......
letting each connection find it's own right place, time and vibe
and not placing arbitrary limits based on an understanding of
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Sat, September 23, 2006 - 3:06 AM"letting each connection find it's own right place, time and vibe
and not placing arbitrary limits based on an understanding of
love as a finite commodity."
Ditto.
...recognizing that like each person is different, so is my love of them.
...letting a lover know that I care enough to want them to explore another relationship, and I'll support them whatever their choice is.
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Tue, October 24, 2006 - 8:39 PM
I like your idea about poly love being patience.
I'm giving a relationship time cool off at her request as we try to transition from being girlfriends seeing each other nearly daily to long-distance secret lovers. (Not sketchy like it sounds. Do not worry, poly police, there is no lying to other people involved.) I feel like my not acting out and trying to force the issue of our communication is one of the most mature things I've ever been able to pull off. Hooray for two years of therapy and personal growth.
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Thu, September 7, 2006 - 9:23 AMWhen your travel plans fall through and your boyfriend volunteers to drive you to your other boyfriend's house so that you can still spend the weekend with the other boyfriend.
When you're sick and your long distance boyfriend's other girlfriend shows up unexpectedly at your door with a carton of hot n' sour soup.
When you find yourself crammed onto a bed with a whole bunch of partners and their partners and nobody seems to mind the close conditions.
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Sat, September 23, 2006 - 5:48 PMFirst hi all, I am new to the tribe but hope to learn from everyone and maybe impart a few interesting words myself along the way.
Now on topic.
Poly love is asking how your wifes lover is doing at the school he is attending. Even when you have been in a different country for over a year.
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Mon, September 25, 2006 - 11:30 PM... Letting go of all the secrets. -
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Mon, September 25, 2006 - 11:55 PM...curling up on the couch with your boyfriend, your husband, and your husband's two girlfriends and watching a movie.
...calling your girlfriend's husband and telling him he's spending the night with you so your girlfriend can take her new crush home with her.
...crying your eyes out while being held and comforted by your husband and his girlfriend because your boyfriend moved out.
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Wed, October 25, 2006 - 2:17 PMlove the last one! My dear one and I started off like this.
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Tue, October 2, 2007 - 1:02 PM"...curling up on the couch with your boyfriend, your husband, and your husband's two girlfriends and watching a movie"
LOL! :D I have a picture of our family from almost a year ago doing just that. Funny thing is, our family at the time was the exact same arrangement. :D
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Tue, September 26, 2006 - 9:30 AM...not possessing any human, and being honest. Even when the truth may hurt at times, it is the ultimate exposure of the self. Loving someone enough to let them go. Finding love in every moment.
I also love the "love is enough" quote earlier....
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Tue, September 26, 2006 - 9:32 AMJust an aside... I am rather new to the lifestyle and my partner and I are working through the bumps with some trepidation and a good deal of excitement. THANK YOU ALL for reminding me of the reason why. -
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Tue, September 26, 2006 - 10:07 AM
Helping your sweetie find and reply to personal ads. -
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Fri, September 29, 2006 - 12:48 AMYes.... (hand on heart). Ahhh!
(poly) LOVE is... looking in the eyes of every bum and freak we meet on the street and saying "I love you" with a smile. -
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Fri, September 29, 2006 - 1:00 AM(poly) Love is... me not posting a reply on the community message board to my girl's ex-boy who wrote a ten page letter to the world saying I'm evil cuz I "stole something from him". The "possessive" comment above tiggered me.
Poly love is not always lovey-dovey. I may have to post a reply to the ex and provide a bit of prespective to all. ;-)
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Fri, September 29, 2006 - 7:43 AMHolding two of my lovers through their breakup... and avoiding the temptation to lure them both into bed at the same time, as much as I miss them together (here, my martyr complex is convenient--without it, said "breakup" would be toast).
Being surrounded by people who are sane and healthy and happy and wise, and feeling joy when they love each other.
Taking valuable common-sense lessons to heart: e.g. Using the same menu for birthday dinners that come days apart is convenient, but doesn't make egos happy. :)
Going from breakfast with my boyfriend to lunch with my ex-lover to dinner with my husband--and having each one of them cook for me in turn... ok, so maybe that's not poly *love*, but it is a total poly *perk* :)
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Fri, September 29, 2006 - 9:08 AMJust wanted to thank so many for sharing your experiences... Some of this stuff is quite heartwarming...
Poly love is truthful love.
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Fri, September 29, 2006 - 10:25 PM...in the midst of a breakup with your primary, you can turn to your lover for support and comfort. Knowing that because one love has ended, that there are always other loves - and they are not that far away.
...is being open to change and fluidity in relationships, even when it hurts.
...is awesome!
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Sat, September 30, 2006 - 1:30 AMI haven't fully identified myself as Polyamorous yet, but these posts resonate with my soul. I would love to date someone that could share love like this.
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Sat, September 30, 2006 - 10:47 AMPicking up on signals for your partner cause sometimes I am just to oblivious to see when I am being flirted with!
Comforting your partner when they get turned down for the third time in a week because it's not him it's them. -
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Mon, October 2, 2006 - 4:41 AM....my boyfriend house sitting for me and taking care of my animals, so I can go to Burning Man with my other boyfriend, even though he wanted to go and was unable to make it.
.....my boyfriend watching my son and switching a night with me for the next night, so that I could spend the night with my girlfriend, who was alone because her husband was spending the night with his new girlfriend.
.....sitting in the back of the car with my boyfriend's wife, watching two of my boyfriends singing along to the Blues Brothers CD. Too cute for words! I love watching my boys sing. -
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Sun, October 8, 2006 - 9:15 PMComing home with my boyfriend from a sleepover at his place, to help my husband cook Thanksgiving dinner. Sharing a whole afternoon/evening with these 2 wonderful men, my son and my niece - talking, laughing and eating.
My husband picking my boyfriend up on his way home from work to save him a bus trip.
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Mon, October 9, 2006 - 10:22 AMGetting engaged to the man I'm crazy about and having both of my lovers be really happy for me. :) Plus inviting my lovers to come to the handfasting because I want so much to share this love between all of us.
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Mon, October 9, 2006 - 10:29 AMCongratulations Jezebel!
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Tue, October 2, 2007 - 1:05 PMCongratulations, honey! Many blessings to you and your entire family!
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Wed, October 11, 2006 - 12:02 AM...honest.
...acceptance, even just as a very close friend.
...crying tears of joy over the beautiful sounds your lover is making with their lover.
...waking up between both of them.
...simply beautiful.
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Tue, October 24, 2006 - 10:14 AMPoly Love is when you mention to your boyfriend's SO that you might have to cancel your midweek visit to your boyfriend's place a few hours away because you hurt your back, and she offers to have him drive down with her leftover supply of Vicodin. ;-P
Kisses,
Ms. Scarlett
www.polypositivity.net
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Tue, October 24, 2006 - 5:17 PMHmmm...cute, romantic, sweet, annoying or snarky? How about sexy? Does that work?
Poly love is being treated to a birthday dinner by two women at a fancy restaurant, including a couple of bottles of real French Champagne, and returning home to a surprise gift of a 10-handed massage by 5 tantric dakinis, followed by a threesome with the same two lovers with whom the evening began....
The details of this birthday party would burn the pants off of most teenage boys....
Two bottles of French Champagne: $150
Three entrees and an appetizer: $170
10-handed massage followed by a scorching threesome: priceless
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Wed, October 25, 2006 - 1:06 AMThese tributes are so beautiful. I only wish that we had been able to reach this place.
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Wed, October 25, 2006 - 1:43 PM...never hiding from relationship issues.
...living and loving with intent, purpose, grace, and dignity.
...freedom from guilt and fear.
...guaranteed to exercise your belly-button-gazing and self-improvement muscles.
...feeling really good about watching your lover and her husband love each other. You can see it in their eyes!
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Wed, October 25, 2006 - 5:47 PMLong answer:
Poly love is understanding that every bond of love is a unique creation formed by all those involved...though interconnected as all human beings are, no relationship (platonic or sexual) inherently takes away from another...but oh! what amazing benefits they can bestow on each other when shared with honest minds and full hearts!
Short answer:
Poly love is being in love with love.
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Wed, October 25, 2006 - 9:09 PMbeing a heart slut.
<winks at A>
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Wed, October 25, 2006 - 10:18 PM...one partner standing in to hold little crying me when the other partner is too far away to do so...
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Thu, October 26, 2006 - 12:11 AMHaving a husband who knows the kind of guys you like and brings them home to you
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Tue, November 28, 2006 - 4:55 PM(Poly) Love is...
...sammich hugs!
...having a cry after a long stressful week, and being comforted by two wonderful loving people.
...being told by my wife that someone at a social gathering is flirting with me and I should go make a move.
...painful growth and healing.
...rather expensive come Christmas time!