"I'm going to play the Devil' advocate and say that there are just as many women out there who are playing Russian Roulette as there are men. And women are just as capable of manipulating the emotions of a man as men are of doing the same in order to get what they want. "

Hardly being a devil's advocate. I'd suggest that most everybody wouldn't, if they didn't think they had to.

Sure, the wisest thing to do is go in assuming one will use them, and condoms are accepted as a necessary evil, but other than the latex fetishists, c'mon, NO ONE would bother if they weren't necessary. We ACCEPT them, but we don't have to LIKE them. And that's where these "moments" can happen, where each person is maybe hoping THIS time it'll be okay.

I think that's what happens with a lot of folks. It's one of those topics that OUGHT to be addressed, but (shrug) there's a certain level of discomfort to it, so people put it off, hoping the other person will mention it first.

Now, I'm not saying this is "okay," lest someone get their knickers in a twist over what they THINK I'm trying to say. I'm trying to say that when you combine "necessary" with "evil" then the necessary evil conversation might have a rough start. And, combined with the fact that (again, excepting the people who are INTO restrictions) condoms generally don't make things feel better, it's not a wonder at all that there are so many kidlets wandering around. The STD stuff is unfortunate as well -- kids and bugs seem to be tightly bound to an extremely pleasurable thing.

That's the way it is.

Condoms are used because they are the least unpleasant way of preventing or avoiding a large percentage of these problems, but let us not mistake them for "pleasant."

So, if someone tells me "hey, I'd rather not use these", I generally have to agree with that sentiment. Doesn't mean I'll act on it -- just means I'm not bullshitting myself into thinking they're extra-bonus fun.

This helps keep me from being a jerk to someone who (no big surprise) doesn't want to use 'em. I'm sympathetic.

This is not to say there aren't jerks out there, of course. I just wouldn't equate them with "people who just don't like condoms" because THAT group is a pretty damn large percentage of people, I'd wager.

Yes, I think that site has some of the best information I've seen on HPV. Thank you, Noel!

The best and greatest sex organ is that grey matter between your ears. What we call our brain. If the chemistry is there and the intention is good then really great sex will follow, with whatever protection you need to be safe. Enjoy.

They do run small, unfortunately. But they have bigger sized ones too available online.