hi,

very nice. i have not seen polyamory yet in seventeen magazine, but my daughters read it and it has included lesbian couples in their surveys like in redbook.

so interesting....what do you think, in maybe 5? 10? years, there won't be any labels for an article like this, just people in love.

hm, unless there is something even more in the closet (surely) that will become the standard for unusual.

it's all going in a good direction. tx for the link.

xo

Ha! The couple representing poly is The Wet Spots. If you haven't heard their music go youtube it, they're great!

Hi, I'm Cass
I'm one of the poly people profiled in the article - and a Wet Spot ;)

I'm so glad that the writer from Redbook decided to run such a non-biased profile. I was sweating it a bit, you know how journos can be sometimes when they make up their minds about the topic before they even interview you? I've had a few interviews go seriously sideways when the writer decided that our act was "dirty" or "filthy" or whatever. Redbook didn't do that and I'm excited by the progressive stance.

AND I was nervous about 'representing' polyamory, even though I know that I am not representing poly, I'm only representing my relationships. I was also nervous that once it came out, maybe we'd be judged "not poly enough" aka "too married" :)

I guess that's telling, huh? John and I are relatively new to living what I would call "fully poly" ( about a year) although I have "been this way" my whole life. Serial monogamist, "open relationship-ist", sometime adulterist, all of it. When I met John, we often played together, with thirdsies, (or more :) but not as individuals, and sometimes in a pretty unhealthy way. When we left one scene in which we were ickily entangled, I thought maybe I'd have to give up on all that lovely variety. I was sad! But then the poly cavalry arrived! We met a cadre of amazing, enlightened polyamorists, mainly from NYC, that took us (and took us, and tookus) under their wings and modeled some very adult, ethical, communicative behavior. It was awe inspiring.

So now we're living it and loving it. I'm getting really good at dealing with my feelings of ... well, just my feelings.... and I'm still really bad at asking people for dates. Sometimes I find it hard to go after what I want. Any suggestions?

And thank you, for being who you are. I'm grateful for your experience. I find it very inspiring.

Cass