So last night, one of my associates in a volunteer group asked me if I'd be interested in a blind date with one of her friends -- "a nice girl, you'd be perfect for her". I'm very flattered but had to say a polite "no".

Now, maybe, to some people, that's not particularly poly of me. But the fact is I'm on one side of a poly-fidelitous vee. Life is good, and busy, and I have no reason to be looking at other intimate relationships.

By my associate doesn't know that. She just knows I'm divorced and live with a married couple and am, apparently, dateable. So we all had a good chuckle about it around here.

It makes me wonder a bit about how much people need to know. We've only used, and explained, the term "poly family" with few close friends. We act like a family when talking to teachers and other people who interact with our kids. But that behaviour doesn't confer a particular relationship status on me. And, so far, nobody's noticed (or said that they've noticed) that Katie and I wear identical rings on our pinky fingers.

So, what to do? Politely decline, as I did? Explain why? I find myself wondering what she's thinking now. Am I asexual? gay? chicken? Does that matter?

What a world it would be if she turned around and asked my partner's husband if he was interested!!!! LOL!