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I was surprised by how tender the threesome sex felt. There's nothing I loved more than holding
my best friend's hand, while she had sex with my boyfriend. I felt so connected to both of them.
It was really a beautiful experience that I wouldn't trade for anything.
--Zoe, 23
(from "The Threesome Handbook" by Vicki Vantoch)
my best friend's hand, while she had sex with my boyfriend. I felt so connected to both of them.
It was really a beautiful experience that I wouldn't trade for anything.
--Zoe, 23
(from "The Threesome Handbook" by Vicki Vantoch)
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Sun, June 28, 2009 - 3:31 AMMark, I'm curious...
Why all QUOTES that you've been posting? Do you have personal opinions that you'd like to share? A question to ask?
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Mon, June 29, 2009 - 2:33 PMright Noel, way to call it.
my personal experience:
recently i realized that i don't mind threesomes- foursomes- whatever- with folks and my main squeeze so long as its temporary and its fleeting sorta- but somehow- i get really uncomfortable sharing him in the same night / same bed what-have-ya with women he's involved with long term. I start to get uncomfortable.
"holding her hand while she makes love to my man" doesn't make me feel closer exactly. it makes me feel like i'm intruding honestly. And i've gotten to the point that i am uncomfortable hearing him have sex with others. This is MY discomfort- and so i don't stop him from having these activities- I just don't put myself in that situation. And all parties have been super understanding and don't get too defensive or self conscious that I don't want to have sex with them all at once or anything.
as for dating my close friends and such- i have asked him recently not to hit on anyone close to me for now. If he wants to- then he can ask me, and we can discuss it. But I live in a pretty big community so the likely hood of finding a cool person to hang out with and want to have a relationship with is pretty good. So i'm open to us fooling around with people close to me- but just not right now. I'm currently surrounded by EPIC FAIL poly families that have been destroyed by close friends fucking people's number one partners. So i'm a little shy of that now.
That quote is VERY romantic and idealistic. I would love that to happen. and like i usually say about some poly situations - sometimes its good in theory but not so good in practice. (but that's for me.) I know that it would be ideal if someone i was close to like a sister or a lover, was lovers with my other lover, and we could all have love to the third power and... wow... wouldn't it all be so hunky dory. but my life isn't currently like that so i'm not going to try and make it like that.
One woman recently tried to get that to happen with us. I slowed her roll - and she was thankful for my honesty- they still have a good relationship and we talk every day and hang out when we can. Its really great the way it is right now. And thats because we were all honest about our feelings and owned them ourselves- and didn't put anything on anyone else. :)
ok so thats my unasked for 2 cents + inflation. :)
but thanx for the quote to get me thinking!
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Mon, June 29, 2009 - 3:49 PM"Holding her hand while she's having sex with my boyfriend" isn't my own personal enjoyment of the threesome experience, meeself.
My personal taste is if there are three in a bed, active INVOLVEMENT on all parts is a lot more fun, but the world is full of different tastes.
I was part of a poly family that eventually did break up (it was a quad), though I don't think internal SEXUAL issues were the biggie that wound up making it not work out. My ex-husband did make an interesting comment a couple of years into the relationship. "Having a threesome with you and our wife isn't like a porno or outrageous fantasy. It's making love to my wives." Since we were a quad, three to a bed didn't happen all that often, but when it did, it was good, but no, not "Hot Bi Babe" action.
I was commenting to my husband today, though, that I think a lot of the foolishness of people who want poly families is that we want to re-create the excitement of the visits we have with our loves and that if we move in we'll HAVE that at least half the time. It misses that compatibility on a dailyness level is the crucial factor to long term success. If you're addicted to the highs and keep going after the excitement out of context, you're setting yourself up.
(Though IN context, it's fun and pretty hot, even if you've been WITH them for 20 years... :) -
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Mon, June 29, 2009 - 7:56 PMThanks, Noel and Mizz, for your very informative and interesting comments.
Noel, I have an endless number of personal opinions on this and many other topics.
Even though I often post quotes from others, those quotes are usually reflections of
what I myself believe in and know in my heart of hearts. I carefully select quotes that
express my own belief system and knowingness.
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Mon, June 29, 2009 - 8:01 PMNoel, like you, my personal taste is, if there are three in a bed, active involvement with everyone. I agree that its the most fun.
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Mon, June 29, 2009 - 11:09 PMyes - definitely for active involvement by all participants!
Had a very sweet threesome (unplanned) with a couple of friends recently. It was my first FMF and given who it was with I *couldn't* have planned it any better than it had happened. We have all been friends for years, but I think this was the first time all three of us were at a clothing optional event together. It was really hard to make ourselves get dressed and go be social again because we were all enjoying the cuddling, nekkidness, and intimate conversations afterward so much...<sigh>.... still kinda grinning about it
Honestly I do feel kind of more "sister-y" than just friends to the other F now... and the other bond became closer as well. I sure do love my friends ;) -
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Re: A True Three-Way Tale
Thu, July 2, 2009 - 3:13 AMI'm so glad you enjoyed your threesome experience. Thanks for sharing. It gave me a warm feeling reading about it.
Clothing optional events sound like fun. I'm a nudist at heart, and I think that nudity enhances intimacy between people.
I've never experienced group sexuality, but I can dream about it.
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